As a therapist, it’s important to me to be using interventions and a theoretical model that is based on research and has been proven to be effective. Gottman Method Couples Counseling is based on over 40 years of research on what make relationships work! The research has been done by psychologists Drs. John and Julie Gottman. They have identified qualities of the “masters” and “disasters” of relationships and developed a theory and interventions based on their research of how to help couples become relationship “masters”.
The infographic below highlights some of the research done by Gottman:
What to Expect:
Gottman Method Couples Counseling begins with an assessment. Just as a doctor won’t immediately perform surgery when you think you have a broken bone before learning what happened, understand what is the pain like, perform an x-ray to assess how fractured the bone is, and then determine whether surgery is really the best treatment modality, I can’t begin to implement interventions until I have a better sense of your relationship. This is comprised of me working with you to have an understanding of your presenting concerns, your goals and hopes for therapy, the history of your relationship, your perceived strength and growth areas, how you’ve gotten through bumps in the relationship, the relationship of your parents (as this is our first model of a relationship), love maps (how well you know your partner’s inner world), how you connect with one another, and how you experience and repair conflict you encounter. I will also ask you to demonstrate a conflict conversation for me so I can get a sense of what this looks like and where you are getting stuck.
I will ask you to complete the Gottman Relationship Check-up before the following session. It is lengthy, at 400+ questions, but this also makes it very comprehensive and streamlines the assessment process.
I will meet with each partner individually to discuss individual goals for therapy and explore individual areas that are important to be aware of for the couples counseling process.
During session 4, I will meet with you as a couple. I will review areas of strength and growth of your relationship and organize my feedback to you by using the sound relationship house. Then, we’ll work together to develop treatment goals. Ongoing sessions will incorporate Gottman Method evidenced based interventions into our work together to help you create the relationship you desire!
I have completed Levels 1 and 2 of Clinical Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. I have also attended Gottman training on working with Complex Couples, which includes those experiencing infidelity, trauma, and/or substance abuse. I weave this material into my couple counseling work.
Don’t hesitate to take the steps for the relationship that you want! Contact me today to schedule an appointment!