Hi, I’m Carolyn!  Thanks so much for visiting my website!  Love, relationships, finding fulfillment, purpose, and happiness are my favorite topics to discuss and I’m so grateful to have the opportunity to help my clients have happy and fulfilling relationships and lives in my work as a therapist in Chicago!  You may have stopped by my website as you are curious if I can help you?  Well, I have a couple of questions for you:


Are you single?

~Have you been dating or in different relationships that have not worked out and are you asking yourself if you’ll ever find “the one”? 

~Do you find yourself dating the same “type” or find you have great dates which never seem to turn into anything?

~Do you notice any patterns in yourself, like you tend to give more than you receive in relationships, your mood is affected by how dating or relationships are going for you, or certain things others do tend to really make you angry?  Or do you have trouble sustaining healthy or fulfilling relationships?  Or are you feeling heartbroken after a break-up?


Are you in a relationship?

~Does something feel off with your relationship?  Maybe you are fighting more often, don’t see eye to eye, or the romance, chemistry, and fun is gone?  Do you feel lonely in your relationship or like your partner has become more of a roommate? 

~Are you engaged or thinking about getting married  and want to make sure you have a solid relationship foundation before saying “I do”?

~Are things generally going well but you want to learn how to communicate just a little bit better or get a “relationship tune up?”


Do you feel “stuck”, struggling to find and/or live your life purpose, feeling depressed, or anxious?

~Are you feeling “stuck” or at a crossroads in life, questioning past decisions and what the future holds for you? 

~Are you trying to figure out your life purpose or do you know your life purpose but  are unsure how to integrate that into your life? 

~Do you feel like you’re in a “funk” or being consumed with worry or anxiety? 

~Are you struggling with self critical thoughts that are hard to turn off?

~Do you find yourself feeling lonely, are trying to figure out where you fit in, or are struggling with ongoing sadness or depression?  Are these feelings affecting your relationships,  your ability to have fun, your school, or work?  Do the feelings feel unbearable sometimes? 


If you answered YES to any of the above questions, I can help!



Relationship Counseling with Couples

Relationships take work.  It can be easy to fall into a routine, lose that “spark”, find yourselves fighting or frustrated with one another, or even lose that sense of friendship.  External stresses, such as family or work stress, depression, or anxiety can also impact relationships.  It is not a weakness to get help with this, instead it is a strength as you are taking charge of getting your relationship back on track, finding your path back to having a happy and fulfilling relationship, and reminding yourselves of why you first fell in love.

My passion and specialty is relationships!  I work hard to stay on top of the research on what makes relationships work and use this research based approach to help the couples I work  with to have more fulfilling relationships.  As a therapist it’s important to me to use evidence based methods, so much of my couples work is informed by Gottman Method Couples Counseling, which is based on over 40 years of research on what makes relationships work!  I’m also certified in Prepare-Enrich for those interested in premarital counseling.

The couples I work with are a combination of being married, engaged, or dating.  Some are looking for a relationship tune up, others are receiving premarital counseling in preparation for marriage, and others are looking to fix something in the relationship.

Relationship Counseling with Singles

In addition to couples, I also work with singles who are exploring dating and relationship patterns, who are seeking more fulfilling relationships, or who are healing from a break-up. We can explore  dating patterns, identify what qualities are important for you to have in a fulfilling relationship, and how to recognize those qualities more quickly in a potential partner.

Depression and Anxiety Counseling

Although a big component of my therapy work is relationship focused, I also work with individuals who are feeling “stuck”,  sad, depressed, or anxious.

If you are feeling “stuck”, we will work together to help you have a better sense of direction in your life and figure out the steps you can take towards a more fulfilling life, living your life purpose.

If you are feeling anxious or depressed, sometimes it may be a situation that causes you to feel this way, other times it may be more of a chronic feeling that you’ve dealt with, and sometimes there is an emotional wound that is being triggered.  Your feelings may be due to a relationship you currently have or have had in the past, such as with a romantic partner, sibling, parent, friend, roommate, colleague, etc, and my expertise in relationships can also help with this!

Thoughts can be very powerful and can easily affect your mood.  Also, many times core wounds become triggered which also affects how you feel!  So while exploring the emotions and situations that contribute to how you are feeling, I will also teach you skills to help manage your thoughts, help you explore coping strategies, and work with you to improve your mood and decrease anxious or depressive symptoms that you may be experiencing.


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I really look forward to hearing from you!   Please call me at 312.809.7017, send me an email at carolyn@carolyncolechicagorelationshiptherapist.com,  or use the form below if you’d like to contact me.  If you have questions about mental health, relationships, personal growth, change, or if there is a topic you’d like to see a blog on, I would love to hear from you through the contact form below!

Ingrained in my work is a belief best stated by Carl Bard:  Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.  I look forward to helping you take some of those steps to have the relationship and life that you desire and deserve!


**If this is a crisis or mental health emergency, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.**